Valentine's Day: Is it worth the fuss?

 Ahh Valentine's Day. How are we supposed to feel on this holiday of commercialized love and affection? It's just another Sunday for me, but I'm taking the time to write a hub because this day holds so much weight for so many people. Don't believe me? Log into facebook and look at your news feed; there are people bitterly declaring that Valentine's Day is "Singles Awareness Day", while others are professing their burning hatred via status.The participators in the Valentine's Day tradition, however, are mysteriously absent from the facebook community. Instead, they are spending big moolah to take their significant other out for a romantic evening. And then, of course, there are the fights and the breakups. Since today is often viewed as the romantic climax (no pun intended), any misfortune that takes place magnifies the "normal day" pain by 1,000,000X.

So what's all the hype about? Should there really be a day designated to show love and affection for the people you care about? Why don't we do that all 365 days of the year?

One day can't fix a bad relationship, and a quick-fix date won't solve individual feelings of inadequacy. If you don't like yourself, why would someone else? Ask yourself that question.

It's just a damn shame, you know? I truly believe people are capable of having great love(s) in their lives. But when you try to rush things...well, what do you expect? Exactly what you settled for...a quick fix. Because great-anythings take time. Which is why I've been happily single for three years. I've dated, and dated, and dated, and dated (or hung out, or whatever you want to call it), but never once in the past three years has something just naturally come together. How many people do you know that stay with people that don't treat them the way they want to be treated? PLENTY. How many people do you know that stay with people just because they don't want to be alone? PLENTY. And how many people do you know that aren't satisfied with one relationship, but they want the comfort factor, so they cheat? Well, more than there should be.

This hub is clearly a very disorganized stream of thought, but the point I want to make is that Valentine's Day means nothing unless you're spending it with the right people. Whether that's a friend, a family member, or a significant other, every day you spend with the RIGHT people sends you in the right direction. Every day you waste with the WRONG people sends you in the wrong direction. So raise your standards--singles or couples, and if you want more, all you have to do is EXPECT MORE. If someone isn't treating you the way you think you deserve, PEACE OUT!!!!!!!! Otherwise, you're sending the message that it's okay and/or you're too weak to keep going, to keep searching for the RIGHT person.

So yeah, happy Valentine's Day, and raise your standards!!!!!!!!! If you don't deserve it--CHOOSE to expect more, and continue the quest for the right friends, the right mentors, and the right lovers!!!

God bless :)!